Surgery scar feelings after kidney cancer
My nephrectomy scars are healing, and everyone keeps saying they look good. I know they mean well. But looking good medically and feeling strange emotionally are two different things.
I am not worried about the incision in a medical sense; anything like that goes to my surgeon. I am talking about standing in the mirror and seeing proof of a month I still cannot quite believe happened. Did anyone else have complicated feelings about scars after kidney cancer surgery?
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The feeling around scars can take up the whole room. I would not call that dramatic.
What stood out to me here is scars. I would give that one detail its own line on the appointment or family-notes page.
Scars might need clearer language, especially the part connected to body image.
The part about scars feels very familiar. I needed smaller words, fewer updates to manage, and one person who could just hear me.
Scars feels both emotional and logistical here. I would put it on its own line.
Scars is the detail I would not minimize. It deserves support without a perfect explanation.
My brain made scars into a full-time job. The actual task was smaller; the feelings were not.
I would keep scars visible instead of trying to explain the whole thing at once.
That waiting on scars feeling can take up the whole room. I would not call that dramatic.